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A Real Estate Space Clearing: Selling a Difficult Space

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orb in cleared home

an orb trio–it’s a clear space!

People think that because the real estate industry is picking up again, they don’t need any extra help selling a property. Maybe ‘move them on through’ is the American way, or maybe people just don’t realize what a benefit a clear space is to both sellers and buyers.

First, doesn’t everyone want to get the best deal they can when they’re selling (or buying) property? Of course, because it’s one of the biggest financial decisions we ever make. And we all like money.

But it’s more than that. Having a clear space to live in makes you healthier, because it soothes and nourishes you. That helps you get through the day better. That adds to the bottom line, regardless.

In addition, more people these days are sensitive to the unseen energies that are always around us, which means it’s harder to maintain your privacy. Yes, as odd as it may seem, when you sell a space, particularly a home, bits of your energy get left behind. That means sensitive people can learn things about you, whether they, or you, like it or not.

There’s enough about us on the Internet. Why complicate it by leaving bits of our energy signatures behind us?

So, you’re saying, what?

Here’s the thing. Everything is made of energy, and energy leaks. So as we go about our day, bits and pieces of what we’re thinking, feeling, and experiencing get left behind in the spaces we visit. Plus, the spaces themselves have feelings, and bits of those go with us. See how complicated life really is at the energetic level?

Well, it’s even more complicated at home, because we spend intimate time there, and because our homes are emotional beings who are very protective of us. Their jobs are to nurture us, and most of them take that seriously.

So, more on this in upcoming articles. For today, let’s explore a space clearing I did for a young man who was selling his condo in Bellevue, Washington. Here’s his testimonial, followed by more details:

Robyn worked with my home this fall and completely changed the vibe of the entire house. When I purchased this home in Bellevue about 3 years ago as a foreclosure I noticed some definite negative energy in the place. My partner and many of my friends got a spooky feeling when they were around the stairs or in the upstairs hallway. This led to an overall uneasiness for guests when they would come over.  Now I’m trying to sell the home but that negative energy seems to be keeping people away. Robyn came over and walked through the home room by room and cleared all of the negative energy. There was a very noticeable change in the home when I came back next and my friends and Real Estate Agent completely felt it too: they were blown away. If I had known about this when I first purchased my home Robyn would have been hired on day 1. The home is more pleasant to be in and I’ve gotten 3 offers on the home within 2 months of hiring her. I also feel much better now that I know I’ll be providing a warm and inviting place to live for the next owner. — Zack in Seattle

Now, this man loved his condo, but had decided to leave his job in the high tech industry and move to Seattle, so he needed to sell it. At the time I cleared it, he had two young men renting it.

The problem was, it wouldn’t sell. He had purchased it as a foreclosure during the recession. The previous owner had literally disappeared, leaving several properties behind.

Now, I work by first discovering what the owner of a property needs and wants in a clearing (it can be anything from selling a property to creating a more vibrant space to live and work in).

Then I actually speak to the property itself, to find out what it needs and wants. In the case of a sale, it’s sometimes sad, as the property doesn’t always want its people to leave. Then it becomes a matter of gently explaining what has to happen (it’s an imperfect world, and none of us always gets what we want) and helping the space to call a new owner in.

This process includes vibrational, or energy clearing.

Much as dusting and vacuuming clear the physical space, space clearing clears the vibrations.

I call my modality Space CooperatingSM because I get the humans and the space to cooperate. It goes beyond traditional space clearing, way beyond feng shui.

With this condo, I insisted on going through it only with the owner, because clearings tend to be emotional events and privacy is key to both the owner and the space.

After I arrived, the owner and I talked about what I learned from the space: that it wanted him to stay, it was prepared for a new owner, and the previous owner seemed to have experienced violence of some sort there. I became more concerned about that as we went through the space. No wonder people were having trouble living there, and the young man was having trouble selling it! As he explains in the testimonial above, people noticed something off about the place, no matter how wonderful the young owner was: I noticed that the previous owner had left a lot of chaotic, violent energy behind.

A deep cleansing was in order. We cleared out the previous owner’s trauma, and the condo’s trauma around that. Then we cleared the current energies. I used incense (copal works great for deep cleansings) and did alchemical energy clearing with my crystal partner, Fallon, the Citrine Lemurian Quartz, moving from room to room. The owner, the condo, and I talked and used alchemical energy to release negativity and heal the space.

At the end of a clearing I always go back through the space with my small (and trusty) Tibetan singing bowl; when I hit a space where the tone wobbles, I do more clearing work.

That’s how we uncovered the owner’s deep feelings for a broken relationship—a reason why I ask real estate agents to stay away from clearings. Deep emotions surface and are energetically cleansed, and healing can take place, here for the owner and the space. Without other people around, we can dig deep and help owners and their spaces resolve conflicts and move on, as was necessary here.

Did it work?

Yes.

I asked the owner to have the real estate agent come back and take new pictures of the condo. When she did she said to me, “I do energy work, too, but this is different. What did you do?”

I cleared the space with my partner, Fallon, in cooperation with the owner and the space itself. Beyond that, I can’t explain it (just like science can’t always explain how things work). It only matters that it works, and no one is harmed by the process.

The condo sold. Everyone was happy. My work was done.

Here are pictures before the clearing:

Pre-clearingpre-clearing eating area

 

Here are pictures after the clearing:

cleared space

cleared living area

 

So how do you know what you want in a space clearing? Check out my article on finding a baseline for space clearing.

Also explore how to determine what you want in a space clearing.

Want a video? Here’s a video on Space Cooperating space clearing.

What have you experienced in a space clearing?

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© 2013 Robyn M Fritz

Video on Tools for Space Clearing

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space clearing setupWhat tools do you use for space clearing? Well, I really think of them as partners in my work, but it takes time to get people to think of everything as an equal and partner, no matter what it is. So when you gather equipment to use in a clearing, ask yourself why you are doing a clearing, and what you want to achieve. Then invite your ‘tools’ to join you. Find out what they can include. Special thanks to photographer/filmmaker Rhonda Hanley for photography and video!

 

 

 

 

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© 2013 Robyn M Fritz

 

 

 

Our Space Clearing Interview with Rachel Belle, on ‘Ring My Belle,’ KIRO Radio, Seattle

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Interview with Rachel Belle, Ring My Belle Radio Segment, Seattle, June 2013Fallon and I had a wonderful team meeting with Rachel Belle, a Seattle journalist who has a segment, “Ring My Belle,” on the ‘Don and Ron Show’ on KIRO Radio, 97.3 FM, in Seattle.

Rachel contacted us because she’d seen an article in the “New York Times” about space clearing. She asked us to conduct a mini-clearing of her Seattle apartment and recorded it for her radio show.

“Home Energy Cleansing: The Crystal Ball That Does Windows” is the result.

I found Rachel to be smart, curious, and funny, all excellent qualities in a reporter. She was unfamiliar with space clearing, which a lot of people are, and part of our session was explaining that it does not mean we dust or vacuum!

Space clearing cleanses the vibrations of a space. That means as we go about our day we leave bits and pieces of our emotions, feelings, and experiences behind us in the places we visit, in particular our home and business spaces.

Our space clearing service operates differently than others as well. I believe in creating partnerships between people and their spaces, to mesh the needs of both sides. That is because I believe that everything is alive, has a soul, consciousness, responsibility, free choice, and an attitude. I have discovered in my work and in my personal life that living as an equal with all life adds depth and richness plus an easy, comfortable, almost mystical connection with the things around me, whatever they are. We need an edge in our lives, a way to be enriched and nurtured as we deal with daily stresses, and space clearing does that.

Before Fallon and I do a space clearing we find out what the people need and want in the space, whether it’s real estate buy/sell, a feeling of being stuck, team building at work, or simply a refreshing change. Then I go and ask the space what it needs and wants, and come back to the people with what I learn. This often results in amazing interactions with people and their spaces—from offers to support creativity to re-energized people and spaces.

Homes are particularly emotional beings. Why? Because their job is to support and nourish us (and, I’ve discovered, they take their job very seriously). Rachel’s situation was interesting. Her home was quite clear for a 100-year-old building, but it was jealous of her work space, which she felt was getting all her attention. Rachel was interested in boosting her creativity at home with art projects, and we talked about defining spaces in a home. Part of my job with clients is to help them define areas in their home that are dedicated for certain activities, from bedrooms that are just for rest, to even a small space dedicated to creative projects.

People can hire us to clear their spaces for them, and to teach them how to do it for themselves.

Do you use space clearing at home and work? What are you results?

A big thank you to Rachel Belle for the interview. She was a lot of fun, we had fun, and her work and home spaces got her attention. It’s an awesome world!

© 2013 Robyn M Fritz

 

What Do You Want from a Space Clearing?

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Puget Sound and Olympic MountainsIn my space clearing practice I am sometimes reminded that people don’t always ‘get’ what it is all about. So let me clear that up for you (okay, small pun intended).

First: we all want and need the same thing: a way to get an edge in our lives, to create the best personal, professional, and creative lives possible.

Here’s the surprise: start with space clearing, with getting the spaces you live and work in healthy, so the ground beneath your feet is as supportive as possible.

You start with getting a baseline on your space, as discussed in an earlier article. Then you define your goals for that space. But let’s back up a bit and explain space clearing.

What Space Clearing Is

Space clearing is a practical, holistic, intuitive technique that clears, or re-invigorates, the vibrations of the spaces we live and work in, much like vacuuming and dusting keep the physical space clean, and de-cluttering keeps it (reasonably) neat.

It doesn’t matter what the space is: whether you live in a tiny apartment or busy estate, or your business space is a cubicle, a bustling retail shop, or corporate or medical office, clearing the space will revive it, helping create healthy, balanced environments.

Space clearing involves vibrational, or energetic, clearing. Our ancestors did it, so it’s nothing new, it’s just something our modern culture is once again remembering.

When You Know You Need Space Clearing

How can you tell a space needs clearing? If you feel comfortable, invited, and intrigued by your spaces, they are healthy and clear. If you are tired, unfocused, and notice clients and staff are lackluster, your spaces need to be vibrationally cleared. If you just think a space needs to be clear, pay attention, because it probably does (that’s most likely your intuition talking, not your imagination).

The thing we tend to forget is that nothing stays clear without assistance. That’s why we’re always cleaning house and organizing our desks. Vibrational clearing is actually more intense, because both people and spaces (and the objects in them) are alive and have feelings, and bits of these emotions and thoughts spin off and mingle in a space, and inevitably clash.

That’s when you know you need clearing. And no, it’s not your fault. It’s life.

We sometimes mistakenly assume we need a space clearing because we must have done something wrong. This could happen when a sudden disruption brings us up short and reminds us that, yes, you had a professional clearing some years ago, and then got busy. The answer here: no, you didn’t do anything wrong; yes, regular clearings help; and yes, sudden disruptions happen.

At other times, life events occur, and space clearing seems like a good fit. That is true. Whether it is a sad event like an illness, divorce, or death, or a happy one like an anniversary, birthday, or graduation, acknowledging the change that occurs in the space and clearing it helps keep everyone at their best, including the space. Well done, a space clearing can include a ritual that adds both depth and beauty to an event.

Sometimes people are offended at the suggestion of a space clearing. This isn’t because some people consider it woo-wooey (although some do), but because they think clearing space implies that something is wrong with it, and, by extension, them.

It does not mean that. It simply acknowledges reality: that everything needs refreshing. It also can be a beautiful and uplifting ceremony all by itself, and is done to acknowledge and celebrate change.

Yes, space clearing can be done just to have fun with your spaces.

Hiring a Professional, and Determining Your Needs and Wants

Of course, you can clear your spaces yourself, and I recommend that you develop a regular practice of doing so. It will help you develop rituals that connect you with your spaces and the rhythms of life, especially if you do it monthly or seasonally. It will also help you stay attuned to what your spaces need to be their best, which helps you be your best (honest).

There are also many reasons why you’d want a professional to clear your space. These are times when you need a neutral, objective outsider. They include:

  • Real estate issues: buy/sell, remodel, new construction
  • Business issues: new or ongoing vibrational maintenance to keep spaces and staff vibrant and productive
  • Life issues: acknowledging life’s milestones, or support on your journey
  • Sudden or ongoing disruption: trauma, unexplained disturbances, ‘ghosts”
  • Training to do your own in-depth clearing

Now, if you are considering my Space Cooperating space clearing method, you and your space will be sharing mutual needs and wants:

  • You will be asking what space needs and wants.
  • You will be sharing what you need and want.

So, the first thing you do is establish your baseline for clearing, as detailed earlier. You employed all your senses to discover how your space appears to you: sight, sound, taste, touch, hearing, and intuition. That gave you some clues, some insights into things you might want to deal with.

Now, knowing that you can approach a clearing without feeling the weight of some karmic guilt (or benign neglect) as outlined above, you can consider your goals for a clearing.

Begin with a general intent:

What would you like to accomplish with the clearing? Peace of mind? Relaxation? Creative spark? An inviting business space? A celebration?

Then list 3-4 specific things you need and want from a space:

How could the space cooperate with you? Yes, what specific things would you like the space to help you with? Sometimes these are difficult, as you must sell a home. For example, I’ve had clients say goodbye and get a real firm idea of the kind of family life the space would want, information that helped their realtors sell faster.

Ask the space what it needs and wants:

Yes, this is a big reason why I’m out there doing Space Cooperating. Stunning things happen when people ask their spaces what they need and want. They learn the space’s personality quirks and interests, they hear its thoughts on their work, and they get unusual support for their creativity. I had one small houseboat volunteer its walls, ceiling, and floors as a canvas for its new owner’s art. The closeness that developed between them still makes me smile.

Very often asking a space what it thinks helps spur your own development, from expanding your personal and professional life to a soaring creative one. Spaces are our intimate partners, and the relationship and team-building that comes from sharing insights and desires creates a closeness that nurtures both sides.

It matters. You matter. Your spaces matter. Tell them what you need and want. Ask them what they need and want. Great things happen.

Spaces get clear. And so do you.

 © 2013 Robyn M Fritz

Finding a Baseline: How to Know When Your Spaces Need Clearing

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elements-of-a-clear-spaceHow do you know when the spaces you live and work in need to be cleaned up? As in vibrationally clear, which comes from space clearing?

Yes, we all vacuum and dust and do the dishes (well, not every day at our house, but you get the idea). We may also clear away the clutter, however you define it (I don’t mind the magazines stacked beside the chair, even when Grace the Cat knocks them over, but I’ve noticed visitors are sometimes, well, judgmental).

Having our spaces vibrationally clean, or clear, is another matter. That means that the unseen essence of a space, like that of all beings human and otherwise, needs to be as ‘free-flowing’ as possible. If it’s not, it’s ‘stuck,’ and that causes problems.

You can tell a space has a problem because of how you feel in it. If you feel uncomfortable, tired, or grumpy at home (or work) or uninspired and lackluster at work (or home), your space is stuck. That simple. It needs space clearing, or what we call in my practice Space CooperatingSM.

Everything Is Alive and Can Get Stuck (Or Not)

Space CooperatingSM begins with a mindset that everything is alive, no matter what it is: a home, a business, our cars, trees, mountains, weather systems. That means that everything has a soul, responsibility, free choice, and an attitude.

Everything.

That also means that everything is affected by other beings. By events. And emotions. So as we humans go about our packed days, we carry our thoughts and feelings with us, whatever they are, and leave bits of them behind us in the places we visit. Our bits mingle with everyone else’s and they either meld into some awesome whole or, more typically, clash a bit (or a lot).

Now here’s the part that most people forget: everything we see, and don’t see, is also alive, right? That’s the mindset element. So the spaces we visit? They’re alive, they have feelings and emotions, too. Everyone who visits them mingles in their energy, or vibration, it all gets mixed up, and we’re right back at getting past ‘stuck’ to ‘awesome.’

Getting ‘stuck’ isn’t necessarily a bad thing, it’s part of life. It’s how we deal with it that matters. Paying attention is key.

We can spend a lot of time thinking about how we feel and working on that with whatever techniques work for us (psychotherapy, energy healing, play, CAKE), but if we don’t pay attention to the spaces we live and work in we’re trying to get better in murky water. And we’d all rather have the cleanest water possible, right?

Finding a Baseline

Bottom line here, we need to pay attention to our spaces. What does it take to create healthy spaces and to keep them healthy?

First and foremost, you need a baseline, so consider your spaces. You get that by checking them out. Literally and figuratively. With all your senses.

You’ll repeat each of the exercises below in each space (room, area). Start by closing your eyes and concentrating on the task before you. Then proceed to the exercise.

First, physically put yourself in the space. Go sit in your living room or your office.

Sight: How does it look to you? Is it bright, dark, colorful, bland, messy, dingy?

Smell: How does the place smell—moldy, fresh, stale, empty?

Touch: What happens when you touch the space: a wall, desk, any physical part of it? Is it sticky, wet, rough?

Taste: Sure, you’re not actually going to taste a space. But imagine that you could. Would it be bland, bitter, sweet, fresh, sour, chemical-laden?

Hear: What do you hear in the space? Street traffic? Wind? Creaking floors? Silence?

Intuition: Of course you knew it was coming. How does the space feel to you? To begin, you might want to close your eyes so you can be as ‘other-sensory’ deprived as you can. Just be present with the space. Note how your body reacts. Note where the reaction is coming from (direction, room).

Is the feeling dense, heavy, light, too airy to breathe in, colorful, bland, dark?

The practicalities: Spaces are colored by what happens in them, just like our bodies are affected by our experiences. Knowing a place’s history can help, as long as it’s one element in your understanding of it and not the entire story.

What do you know about the spaces—have they experienced high turnover, unhappy or stressed humans, cold or heat?

Now: repeat this entire exercise for every area or room in your space, including outdoor spaces.

What It Means: Your Baseline

What do you think, and feel, about your spaces? Combine everything you know to determine areas that feel perfect and others that might need some focused attention. The parts that need attention need space clearing. Be grateful for the others, and spend some time figuring out why they are that way (and keep them clear with regular space clearing as well).

You now have your baseline. Notice that it combined some objective, eyes wide open analysis of your spaces with how you experienced it with all your senses, including your intuition.

Yes, your intuition. You are intuitive: you had insight into the space that didn’t come from what you objectively experienced.

You’ve started to tap your intuition to experience your space.

What do you think about that? What does it mean to you?

We’re just about ready to take the big step that distinguishes Space Cooperating space clearing from other space clearing practicies: finding out what the space has to say about itself and the people it encounters.

Yes, that’s right. The space itself.

But first, what do you want from the space? Sitting down to outline what you need and want in a space is key to fixing any imbalances and to negotiating change with the space. That’s our next topic.

© 2013 Robyn M Fritz

 

Video on Space Cooperating: Space Clearing That Talks with Spaces

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Puget Sound and Olympic MountainsSpace Cooperating is a space clearing modality that I invented in Seattle at my company, Alchemy West. Why? Because it was needed.

Space Cooperating helps connect people and their spaces by meshing the needs and wants of both people and their spaces.

That’s right. I intuitively talk with homes, businesses, and land to find out their needs and wants as I explain human needs and wants. Then I bring them together to negotiate solutions. Then Fallon and I clear the spaces with alchemical energy (it helps the people, too).

What happens? Property sells, remodels are easier, people solve business problems, people and their spaces work wonders together. Awesome.

It’s all about mindset. If you really believed you were equal to all life, instead of dominating it, you would ask what it needed and wanted. Wouldn’t you? Check out our video.

[youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0o2IerVqLOc[/youtube]

© 2013 Robyn M Fritz

Mindset: Why Changing Paradigms Changes the World

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Patterns by Mary Van De Ven

Patterns by Mary Van De Ven

I will listen to anyone who has something to say to me—as long as they have a healthy interest in me and in building community. That’s actually a big crowd, because most of us are genuinely interested in building a better world, and actively seeking ways to do it.

But most of us forget that it isn’t just humans who are interested in us, so we miss a lot. We miss opportunities to connect and to grow, which makes us, and the world, a bit less than it could be.

I have been talking with nonhumans since I was a kid, from my banty chicken companions to trees, buildings, and the land around me. I didn’t always understand this; I only understood that I saw things differently than other people, that a strictly human perspective didn’t include the world I knew that was full of other beings who were eager to chime in—and routinely ignored.

To be clear, I was ignored, too. What saved me was that I was a girl in a small Oregon town that didn’t think girls were relevant, a dismissal that allowed my parents to humor me within a culture that had no frame of reference for someone like me. I survived because I was very bright, worked hard, and learned to block what everybody else was blocking.

I don’t do that anymore, and neither should you. We all need to quit blocking what the rest of the world needs to share with us. Because we need to be our best selves, and that’s the only way we can.

That means bridging paradigms, moving from a human worldview to an earth worldview. Simply put, it means changing mindset.

We’re used to operating from a human mindset—a paradigm that implies that humans are in control and the world revolves around us. It operates through cultural, religious, and governmental constraints. It’s not fun—and it’s not working.

The earth mindset is true, accurate, and works. It is the world as it really exists, acknowledging that everything is alive, has a soul, responsibility, free choice, a point of view—and is equal to us.

Everything—from our animals to our homes and businesses and the land around us.

Okay, so you’re thinking that you have enough to do without wondering what your car or house or business think.

Truth is, this worldview makes things easier, and that makes you better. To create healthy, vibrant, prosperous lives, we need rock solid ground beneath us. That means space clearing that really works: the modality we teach that we call Space Cooperating.That means intuitive communication that respects differences—so that we can all grow from them, communication that we call Mindset Alchemy.

Imagine the environment we can create by finding out what the land and water think, what our buildings need and want, what they can contribute to what we need and want. (Check out some of our intuitive stories at our website.)

Imagine the possibilities for growth, creativity, and just plain fun that occur when we broaden our perspective and respect the world and everything in it as an equal.

Humans only know a small part of the world—usually just what we think up. It limits us. Want to know the truth about global warming? Ask the hurricanes. Want to know how your home would like to nourish you, or what your business might suggest for attracting new clients? Want to know how to find a new home, or direct a remodel? Want insight you can’t get anywhere else—something that could change your life?

Ask the nonhuman beings in your life. But first, change your mindset. Instead of being a boss with only some of the information, you’ll be a partner with access to much more.

How?

I teach this mindset in classes and in one-on-one sessions. It works. Your life will change. I’d say ‘trust me,’ but don’t. Trust yourself, and the beings who are waiting to share with you.

Come find out how.

©2013 Robyn M Fritz

Why Space Cooperating Is Better Than Traditional Space Clearing

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lavenderSpace clearing is a great way to keep the energies or vibrations of a space healthy and balanced. It works, but the modality I created at Alchemy West, which I call Space Cooperating,SM works better. It’s part of the Seattle intuitive consultation practice for people, homes, and businesses that I run with my partner, Fallon, the Citrine Lemurian Quartz.

What Space Clearing Is

Space clearing is a holistic method of clearing the energies or vibrations of a space. Just as you need to dust or vacuum a space to keep it sparkling, you need space clearing to make a space feel good.

It’s easier to experience this concept than to intellectualize it. If you feel uncomfortable, tired, restless, vague, or uninspired at home or work, you need to clear those spaces. Even if you feel great, you need to keep a space clear so that it continues to feel great (just like house cleaning)—the more regularly you do it, the easier it is (again, just like, well, you get it).

The problem is, traditional space clearing, the type practiced by our ancestors and adapted for our times, forces a space to change to suit us. It in effect throws a blanket on top of the space. You may feel better for a bit, but it’s pretty hard to live, let alone breathe, under a blanket 24/7.

Why Space CooperatingSM Works Better

Space CooperatingSM clears space by inviting the space to tell us what it needs and wants, and then negotiating change. Because it negotiates instead of forcing, the space doesn’t end up feeling dense and heavy, but vibrant and healthy. What’s more, when we actively cooperate with our spaces, we create partnerships with them, and the most amazing things happen!

The insights we glean from our partners help us be our best selves. This is especially true of our spaces, because they are, literally, the ground beneath our feet, the rock solid foundation we need to grow on. Their unique insights into our needs and wants can be both practical and inspiring. The sad thing is, they are often overlooked by those of us who don’t think to invite them to share with us.

In my Space CooperatingSM practice I’ve seen:

  • a house over a century old perk up and invite its new family to play with it
  • a houseboat invite its new owner to use its walls, ceiling, and floor as an art canvas
  • a huge estate admit that the property it lived on was not suitable for a young family
  • a house that didn’t want to let go of its people understand they couldn’t stay, and call new people to it

Sure, this all might have happened with space clearing, but not as easily or as happily. Because Space CooperatingSM creates partnerships. And life is about connecting.

In future articles I’ll be discussing mindset, rituals, tools, practitioners, everything you need to know about clearing space with this new method.

But for now, what questions do you have about Space CooperatingSM?

© 2013 Robyn M Fritz

My Dog Is Dying: The Real Life Crappy Choice Diary, Entry 15

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my dying dogHow civilized are we, really?

As things stand in our society, grief is a reality largely reserved for humans. By humans.

My grief is not. Neither is my family’s.

I was at an expo last weekend in Portland, a place where people come together to celebrate and explore metaphysics, from crystals to healing arts to intuitive consultations. I met people who don’t put the kinds of limits on mindset that a large part of our society does. People whose minds are open to the possibility that there is more out there than human.

And that it is worthwhile.

I was there with my crystal partner, Fallon, doing intuitive consultations and teaching a workshop on space clearing, what I call Space CooperatingSM.

In my work I talk about how we bridge paradigms by acknowledging that the world isn’t all about humans, but about all life together. The mindset that really works is the mindset that acknowledges that humans and all life are equals: that everything on our planet is alive, has a soul, is conscious, and has responsibility and free choice.

All life. From humans to animals to trees and rocks and volcanoes and weather systems.

Something happened at the expo last weekend.

Someone who works professionally as an intuitive, as I do, looked over at me, met my eyes, and immediately came over to me. Her face changed in the moment our eyes met. Simple human curiosity changed to loving compassion.

She came up to me and said. “You’ve recently lost your soul mate. I’m sorry for you.”

I felt my grief well up. Yes, I had just lost my soul mate, my beloved dog, Murphy. A complete stranger, an intuitive, had seen the loss written on me and offered condolences. When told, it didn’t matter to her that it was my dog I’d lost: what she acknowledged was how profound the loss was to me. Her understanding and compassion were based on a love of all life.

Somehow we humans are growing as a species. When I lost my beloved dog, Maggie, so many years ago, my family ridiculed my grief. I had to get on a plane and go visit friends who loved and honored her.

This time, love and support have come from everywhere: from long-time friends to new ones, from clients to strangers, in phone calls and emails and cards and gifts and visits. Complete strangers who find my blog and who are living the human-animal bond with animals as family members. Some of them are people who are struggling with their own loss, and finding community in grief.

This time, people understand.

Somewhat.

Truth is, some of the response have bewildered me. People who are long-time friends who haven’t bothered to call. People who are new friends who have, whose simple acceptance has given my grieving heart, and my family’s, space to try to find a new rhythm.

There are people who don’t understand and don’t try. The people I was with the day that I took Murphy to the vet and watched as a radiologist carefully examined her and showed me, on the ultrasound, what was going to kill my beloved. The day I learned that the mass they’d seen on an x-ray was most likely splenic cancer. The day I learned our days were numbered.

That was the day I was going through the motions of being a supportive friend and businesswoman, listening to two people bemoan their difficulties and annoyances and wondering what I was doing there. The day I was thinking of my family’s future, and trying to think plain thoughts about how I’d find someone to drive me and my dog to the ER in the middle of the night if Murphy went into crisis and had to be euthanized, and I might not be able to drive us.

The day both women turned to me and shouted, “Don’t call me for a dog.”

Truth is, it never occurred to me to consider either of them as potential help. I was simply brainstorming out loud.

The vehement response is still with me. What were they so afraid of that they had to shout it at me? What was lacking in them that they couldn’t simply say, “I’m sorry for you”?

Yes, in many ways we’ve matured as a society. Today, a perfect stranger can see grief on a stranger’s face and understand that losing an animal soul mate is every bit as devastating as losing a human one.

It’s just not always as socially acceptable.

I already knew that, as it did not occur to me to ask either of these people to help me, but respected their cool business heads enough to see what logical ideas would come to them as I grappled with the sure knowledge, only hours old, that my last days with Murphy were upon me. Nevertheless, their cold hostility shocked me, and still does.

I am grateful that this story shocks others who hear it. That what resonates with others is that, as advanced as our society supposedly is, we still aren’t really there.

We still don’t see all life as equal to humans.

Or that grief is not reserved for humans.

My surviving dog, Alki, and Grace the Cat grieve. I grieve. Others grieve with us. And some absolutely do not.

I wonder what that means. The people who refused to help when help wasn’t requested: were they just not ‘animal people,’ or were they just afraid to acknowledge grief?

Maybe they thought death would rub off on them.

Maybe animals aren’t good enough. After all, I’m expected to care about their children and spouses, and I do. I care about all life. I care about their families. They just did not care about mine.

Some few others do care.

We are the ones who will make a difference in the world. We live compassion. We live love. We can see what life with a soul mate can be like, whatever body it is in.

And what death does to us.

Grief is universal. It should unite us. Civilize us. Beyond species.

Will it?

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